Not Everyone Walks With You On Your Journey! !
By J.W. Edwards
Often when we start a new quest, venture, or journey, we can’t wait to blaze a new trail and invite our family, friends, and the world to come along with us. Sooner or later we find out that not everyone wants to be apart of our journey. What can we learn from Sunny in Bee Helpful when he discovers almost no one supports his quest to help his friend?
Can you remember a time when you had an idea, dream, or project that was very important to you? The sort of thing that caused a tidal wave of excitement to rush through your entire nervous system? This level of enthusiasm is hard to keep inside and nearly impossible to ignore. For many reaching this point, it certainly marks the beginning of a new quest. One of the first things we might do is reach out to some people and share our vision or quest with them only to end up with a basket full of heartbreaking experiences when they don’t share our enthusiasm, say it will
not work, disagree, ridicule us and/or our idea, refuse to support us, or even ignore us! This can be downright disheartening, hurtful, and devastating.
This sort of response is often all it takes to destroy a fragile dream that aspires to one day become real. Just about everyone who has shared their idea with enough people have experienced this…it even happened to Sunny in my Bee Helpful story too! This is one of many lessons I’ve included in the story for children and parents because lack of support can leave us
feeling hurt, angry, frustrated, resentful, and isolated.
So what can we do about it? What did Sunny do? One of the lessons is about accepting:
“Not Everyone Walks With You On Your Journey…”
What does this mean? It means that it’s not meant for everyone to be apart of what you are doing, or at least not right now. Our journey is first and foremost for us to walk and sometimes we must walk it alone. This doesn’t mean that everyone is against us or hope that we will fail in our quest. Often it’s just that many people are busy with their own journeys. Some of them are even fighting spectacular fire breathing dragons and are unable to come and help you fight yours.
There are lots of reasons why they can’t be there with us. Whatever the reasons are, we will be better off to honor them and accept that not everyone can go with us on our quest. After feeling frustration and despair, Sunny Bee eventually accepted this so he could continue his journey.
The second part of the lesson is:
“Always Keep Moving Forward”
Despite walking alone sometimes or not receiving the level of support we had hope to get from the people in our lives or that of the world, we must remember to always keep moving forward. It’s ok to take a break and rest for a little while to regroup as Sunny did in the story.
It is very easy to get caught up thinking about who’s not there or didn’t do this or that. These discouraging thoughts can cause us to be in the wrong emotional state to succeed. Instead, we must concentrate our vital energy on our passion and each step of our journey, which is really about doing what we love. Remember each day to take a step or two and realize that it is all about the journey, not the destination. If you can’t enjoy now, you will not enjoy later either.
“Remember each day to take a step or two and realize that it is all about the journey, not the destination.”
Also it helps a lot to be grateful for those who do support you, even if it is just your dog at first. If you walk far enough, eventually you will be surprised at who comes along and who you will meet along the way.
Lastly, be there to support someone else on their quest, too. Your attention, time, support or whatever you can give, means more to them than you’ll probably ever know.
What are your thoughts? Have you experienced support or lack of support for your ideas or quest? How did you feel about it? What did you do about it?
About the author:
J.W. Edwards III was born in St. Louis, Missouri and spent the majority of his childhood there. Eventually he left St. Louis for engineering school and job opportunities. He has traveled across most the U.S. in search of a place to call home. He currently resides in northern California with his wife and three boys and works full-time as a software engineer while writing stories for his youngest son in his spare time.
J.W. Edwards is busy these days working on a variety of writing projects which includes the Sunny Bee Book Series. Book number three, Bee Helpful, was the first one to be published. Books 1, 2, and 4 will follow soon in 2014. Learn more about this series at www.sunnybeebooks.com.